The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies. Who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity. Who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another. Who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements. Who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy. Whose deed follows his word. Who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.
A man should strive to be a gentleman for the betterment of women, not to attract women. (don't expect to attract women just because you are a gentleman, or expect recognition for your behaviour, or you're simply a poseur). Don't be a poseur.
Be a Gentleman.
“She was so delicate that, while we sat beneath the linden branches, a leaf would fall and drift down and touch her skin, and it would leave a bruise. So as we sat in the afternoon hour, beneath that fragrant linden bower, I had to chase all of the leafs that fell away.” ― Roman Payne